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The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness / Being a Complete Guide for a Gentleman's Conduct in All His Relations Towards Society
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- Gutenberg ID
- 39293
- Title
- The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness / Being a Complete Guide for a Gentleman's Conduct in All His Relations Towards Society
- Language
- en
- Book source
- Project Gutenberg
- Description max 80 words
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This 1860 guide by Cecil B. Hartley offers a comprehensive manual for gentlemen's conduct across all social relations. Blending French, English, and American authorities, it provides essential rules for etiquette in streets, ballrooms, dining, and correspondence, alongside advice on dress, conversation, and manly exercises like boxing and hunting.
- Summary up to 500 words
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Cecil B. Hartley's *The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness* serves as a definitive guide for navigating polite society in the mid-19th century, arguing that man was born for sociability and that success depends on observing specific forms. Hartley emphasizes that while etiquette can be despotic in some circles, a true gentleman maintains refinement even in casual moments. The book advises avoiding political and religious debates in general society to prevent quarrels, instead favoring wit, vivacity, and broad comprehension. Hartley details proper conduct for driving, sailing, hunting, and skating, stressing selflessness and the willingness to assist others. For instance, in driving, a gentleman should offer to assist a lady into a vehicle but never place her in the carriage without holding the horse, ensuring her safety. In sailing, a well-bred man will offer to take the heavier oar rather than shirk his work. The author warns against pedantry, urging readers to wear their learning privately and to judge ancients and moderns fairly, avoiding the trap of idolizing the past or dismissing the present. Furthermore, the text addresses financial prudence, advising against living beyond one's means and shunning gambling. In sports like boxing and fencing, Hartley promotes a philosophy where kindness and forbearance elevate rough activities, ensuring the gentleman remains agreeable and respected. He notes that in boxing, one should allow an inferior adversary to choose gloves and position to encourage their proficiency. Ultimately, the work promotes a philosophy where genuine courtesy elevates every aspect of life, ensuring the gentleman remains agreeable and respected in every aspect of life, from the drawing room to the hunting field.
- LLM editorial rating
- 4.2/5
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Authors
- Cecil B. Hartley
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Categories
- Etiquette
- Men -- Conduct of life