Conversation

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Gutenberg ID

27830

Title

Conversation

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en

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Project Gutenberg

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Mary Greer Conklin's 1912 guide offers practical advice on social interaction, distinguishing between mere talk and true conversation. With a tone of gentle instruction, the book teaches readers how to amuse rather than lecture, balance light humor with serious ideas, and cultivate the tact necessary for delightful company.

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In her 1912 manual *Conversation*, Mary Greer Conklin redefines social interaction not as a monologue or a classroom, but as a reciprocal partnership designed to distract, interest, and amuse. Drawing on the wisdom of historical figures like Castiglione, Coleridge, and Stevenson, Conklin argues that the primary aim of society is pleasure, not instruction. She posits that while genius is not a prerequisite for good talk, natural ease, humor, and tolerance are essential. The text warns against the pitfalls of those who lecture or dominate the floor, describing such behavior as a failure to listen rather than a display of knowledge. Conklin emphasizes that true conversation requires a 'give and take,' where participants generously draw out the best in others while contributing their own thoughts. She advocates for a 'feast of reason and flow of soul,' where wit is combined with sense and information, and where controversial topics that lead to debate are avoided in favor of general, light-hearted discussion. The book provides practical guidance for various social scenarios, particularly dinner parties. Conklin outlines the specific duties of guests and hosts, noting that guests must balance general table talk with private exchanges without ignoring their hosts. She illustrates how a clever hostess can steer a conversation from serious academic topics to light humor to put a distinguished guest at ease, ensuring the atmosphere remains congenial. Furthermore, the work addresses the mechanics of conversation, such as the necessity of avoiding interruptions, managing the awkward moments before dinner, and distinguishing between innocent gossip and slander. Ultimately, Conklin presents conversation as the instrument of friendship, achievable through social skill and the deliberate cultivation of tact, nicety, and the ability to adjust one's speech to the company present. She concludes that while some conversational ability is natural, it can be polished and improved, transforming social intercourse into a delightful intellectual stimulant for all participants.

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